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Lessons learned after 2 years of marriage

Posted: July 9, 2013 by thoughtsfrommyshelf in Marriage
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Two years ago on a Satur198148_1308056318928_832180_nday afternoon, I stood in front of the most beautiful woman I know and committed to loving her before our family and friends. Today, I celebrate two years of a lifelong journey with my wife and it has been absolutely wonderful.

I have learned a lot about her, myself, and the faithfulness of God. I came into marriage thinking I knew what married life would be like. I had ideas, thoughts, plans, and a vision. Well, lets just say that I was very uniformed for what was to come. The first year of marriage was like a crash course on how selfish I was/am. It was hard to let go of the single man I was for 23 years. It was hard to come home from work and find out that instead of rest I would punch in for my role as a husband. I have had a lot of my preconceived notions about marriage changed. Not only have they changed, they have been exchanged for something better. A life that is not centered around me, but around my wife and the good of our family.

Lewis Smedes wrote about his commitment to his wife in an article, “My wife has been married to seven different men, and all of them have been me.” He was trying to get across the fact that men and women change in marriage. The more your are married, the more you shed off ideas that move forward “my” agenda for what would best serve “our” agenda. I thank God for my wife and all that she has been to me. The love is sweet, our commitment has been tested, and our promise has been proven.

Here is a humorous take on what I just shared.


An Open Letter to my Wife

Posted: May 29, 2013 by thoughtsfrommyshelf in Marriage
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We are so close to our two year anniversary. I think of the last two years and can’t overlook how instrumental you have been in my life. With the modern view of marriage being a chain and a ball, game over, and something you do when you get older- I am so glad the opposite is true of our relationship. You have made life more interesting, more enjoyable, and the games have just begun.

I was a young naive 23 year old and you were a young 21 year old when we got married. But I wouldn’t trade marriage for what the 20’s has to offer a single dude like me. The adventure, spontaneity, freedom, and joy singleness has to offer has only been multiplied by being with you. We have traveled a road only you and I could have gone through. In the midst of potholes, speed bumps, set backs, and detours we have only gotten to know each other more deeply and care for each other more specifically.

I began with telling a few select people about how my feelings for you were growing and now feel like shouting from the highest location with the loudest megaphone of my undivided love and commitment to you. You and I are not the husband and wife that we want to be…but we aren’t the husband and wife we were two years ago. We have grown in our love, knowledge and commitment. Two years in, with the rest of our life ahead of us….this is the journey of my life! I see how you are uniquely made to suit me and enhance my strengths and support my weaknesses. For your patience, humility, teachability, care, servant-like-heart, forbearance, and unabashed love… I am glad to say I love you… and I look forward to growing old with you.

I love you, Lindsay, with greater depth than I did before and with great anticipation of the future.